Healing from an abortion is possible. I’m passing on some wonderful information
from women and men who choose to be Silent No More!
May 4, 2010
Dear Friends of the Silent No More Awareness Campaign,
With our record-breaking winter behind us, we are thrilled to see bright green leaves, pink cherry blossoms, lavender wisteria and multi-color tulips! It seems all of nature is praising God!
We extend a special welcome to those who have recently joined the Campaign. We want you to know we appreciate your desire to break the silence that surrounds abortion.
For many of us, this Sunday, May 9th is one of the most painful days of the year. Many of us will spend Mother’s Day aware of the fact that we are childless mothers. Even if we do have children, we know there should be more of them. The same feelings can occur on June 20th for childless fathers.
We want to encourage you to take time this Mother’s and Father’s Day and allow yourself to thank God for the promise we have that we will see our children in Heaven, and they are safe and whole. Remember you are not alone in your feelings and thoughts of what might have been, it’s okay to take time in the midst of the busyness to grieve. You may even want to consider sharing the forgiveness you have received as well as the grief you feel with someone who doesn’t know about your abortion. It may sound strange but when we share our story it allows our children’s lives to have meaning anew and the reminder of their existence comforts us.
We also encourage churches and individuals to acknowledge mothers and fathers of aborted children who will be struggling. Send them a card, call and pray with them, invite them to participate in your family/church celebration. Don’t stay silent because you don’t want to hurt our feelings, we’re already hurting.
This special tribute to Mothers’ was written in 2005 by Joan Maloof, one of Silent No More Awareness Campaign’s retired Regional Coordinators. We share it here again because it captures Motherhood; honestly and compassionately.
Mother’s Day. . . Pleasant or Painful?
When you think of Mother’s Day, what comes to mind? Flowers? Candy? A special brunch at her favorite place? Just the right card that says exactly how you feel? Or, have you sometimes searched for a Mother’s Day card and never found one that seemed completely appropriate?
For many of us, Mother’s Day brings special thoughts of a loving mom:
She is always there when we need her
She meets our physical and emotional needs
She nurtures, inspires and encourages
She is our role model; we want to be just like her!
We have warm, pleasant feelings when we think of mother. That is what God wants for us: “…gentle…like a mother caring for her little children” I Thessalonians. 2:7
For others, thinking of mother brings hurt and pain. Maybe….
Your mother left, or otherwise abandoned you
She abused you or allowed someone else to hurt you
She put her needs first and allowed your needs to go unmet
Some of our mothers have failed us and we sometimes carry that hurt in the form of anger, bitterness and unforgiveness. God never intended for us to be hurt by our mothers. He wants us to forgive, just as he forgives us. “Forgive and you will be forgiven.” Luke 6:37c
And many others experience profound grief and sorrow when reminded of Mother’s Day:
A mother who has lost a child to death
A mother who has lost a child to addictions
A mother who has lost a relationship with her child
A mother who has lost custody of her children
A mother who has placed a child for adoption
A woman who has chosen abortion
A woman who has suffered a miscarriage
A woman who cannot conceive or carry a child
A woman whose mother has died
God knows of our hurt, pain and sorrow. He wants to bring you comfort today: “As a mother comforts her children, so I will comfort you.” Isaiah 66:13
So, celebrate this Mother’s Day by knowing that you have a heavenly parent (God) who loves you! Unconditionally, completely and eternally; and if you trust in Him, this is His promise:
“never will I leave you, never will I forsake you” Hebrews 13:5